The truth behind the perfect couple

He did not hit me. He was not a physically abusive boyfriend. It was his words. It was what I allowed, and what he did not. It was stalking my social media to ensure that I truly went to bed. It was refusing and crying three times when I wanted to break up. It was criticizing my morals if they did not fit with his. It was shaming my choice of friends and who I was texting, but feeling no regret when he deleted messages from female classmates. He did not hit me, but he left so many bruises. Over a year and a half ago, my first relationship ended. He was my best friend, my knight in shining armor. My friends used to assure me, “It was a good relationship. People break up.” But they were wrong, and I never felt more alone. Just as I was blind in the relationship, all the outsiders were too. But I cannot tell you that I was the perfect girlfriend. I wanted more than 24/7. I was high maintenance, moody and developing as a human. Most of all, I was looking for a relationship that did not exist: a perfect one. But he was suffocating. I was buried underground, and by the time I realized what was happening, he had already thrown the last pile of dirt on top. I can tell you the...

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Even in life’s toughest moments, perseverance is key to moving on

Jordan Gilligan, Columnist One of the hardest things to do is to keep doing what you love despite the lack of support you receive. Perseverance is a quality not every person naturally possesses. Most of the time it’s a skill that requires experience in order to develop. People will look you in the face and tell you that you are never going to be good enough. If this hasn’t happened to you yet, it probably will at some point in your life. It’s already happened to me plenty of times. Hate and negativity is something we all experience in one way or another. I have had my fair share of negative people. I’ve been riding horses for 14 years, and I have had coaches who didn’t care or tried to put me down. When I was 16, I had a coach that told me, “I hope you fall off in front of everyone so I can say I told you so.” Coaches are not just supposed to teach you physical skills but also life skills. They are supposed to be your motivation and your reason to succeed. I had to learn quickly to be my own life coach. When these remarks would be said to me, I just brought home another blue ribbon to prove again, over and over, that they were wrong about me. Building this extra tough...

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Remember your local community

The following piece, written by the editorial editors, reflects the majority opinion of the editorial board. With May and the end of the school year comes graduation and the proverbial pushing out of the nest into the “real world” for roughly a quarter of the undergraduates at Miami. As with every year, this is a bittersweet moment for these outgoing seniors, as well as the university at large. For those graduating, it is a time to reflect on their place in the world as they accept new responsibilities. In that reflection, we would like to remind graduating seniors and other students of the place they stand today, in southwest Ohio, where you chose live and learn. It is important to remember that these past years have not just taken place in the mythical faraway land of Miami University, but in the communities of Oxford, Butler County and the region as a whole. All too often, it feels as though Miami students think of this place as a stepping stone to a larger career elsewhere. But this area has real people with real needs and real livelihoods, and it should be treated as such. The tale of the forgotten demographics of rural midwestern areas, such as Butler County, is one that has gained more attention following the most recent presidential election. The Hillybilly Elegy,  America: unwound. By staying connected with...

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Janus’s unanswered questions

Hannah Meibers, Columnist On April 27, the Janus Forum hosted Heather MacDonald and Governor Martin O’Malley to speak on police brutality and the role of race in the justice system. But it seemed to be MacDonald versus Miami. There were police officers guarding the doors, eyeing the rowdiest of students, and the applauses only sounded when Governor O’Malley spoke. Beyond the stats and stories, I cannot say the question at hand was answered: Can Both Black and Blue Lives Matter? MacDonald’s points were simple. The data is the data, and the policing system is not racist. MacDonald made sure to praise all of us for our kindness, as we did not blockade the door to the facility, as the Claremont College students had done 16 days prior to the talk. After a few words to get the ball rolling, she began discussing the statistics. And to be honest, she did not stop discussing the statistics. When the stage was handed over to Governor O’Malley, he made sure to acknowledge the “far from perfect” country we are living in, and how, in order to improve, we have to “do it together.” In just 10 minutes, Governor O’Malley discussed personal stories from his experience in Baltimore as the governor of Maryland, and the questions he has been asked. On the topic of making improvements in high crime cities that would allow...

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In protests, engage the ignorant effectively

The following piece, written by the editorial editors, reflects the majority opinion of the editorial board. Yesterday afternoon, Miami University students gathered in response to the arrival of three Official Street Preachers for the second time this academic year. Official Street Preachers is a national organization that utilizes public preaching to spread a radical interpretation of the word of God. The Street Preachers are seasoned professionals when it comes to eliciting a response out of the crowd it gathers in response to its homophobic and anti-abortion signs. They shout profanities at people walking by on their way to class...

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